Today, women out perform and out earn their male counterparts in many careers. But, when it comes to a woman’s personal life, Is a woman’s career a relationship deal breaker?
As women evolve, some men see their female counterparts as reliable and capable equals.
But, can the same be said with regard to a woman’s career and her personal relationship choices?
There are too many variables on this subject to put into a single blog post. Today’s post focuses on those who have completed college and are in, or just starting out in, a lucrative career.
This target population may, or may not, have the following:
- A family (husband, wife, children)
- A significant amount of debt (credit cards)
- A permanent residence (home purchase)
- An expensive hobby (gambling)
Immediately I see difficulty with the ability to determine (for someone else) whether a woman’s lucrative career could become an issue in her future relationship choices.
This topic is extremely personal and should be determined on a one-on-one basis.
Matters of Sustenance (Needs)
It should start with where you are in your life and what your basic needs will be into the future. If a woman is thriving in her career, her needs will be taken care of automatically. This makes it unnecessary for a man to provide her sustenance.
Of course, there are those who do try to take advantage of the situation. But, those who are genuine and enter into the relationship for all the right reasons, will discuss the financial ramifications and its affects.
In addition, a discussion should be undertaken regarding the expectations from either party involved in the relationship.
Getting things out in the open in the beginning regarding who will buy food, utilities, and entertainment will dispel any misunderstandings in the future.
Matters of Materialism (Tangibles)
Not everyone believes a woman should pay for all the materialistic items in a relationship if she makes more money than the man. But, I do believe if a woman makes a comfortable living that she should pay for her materialistic needs.
This is also a difficult issue to sort out because it is purely based on personal preference and expectations that should be expressed at the beginning of the relationship.
As we all know, there are some men who inherently wish to “lavish” women with such things as jewelry, clothes, etc., but these men are few and far between.
You might ask – if a woman is materialistic resulting from her lucrative career – Is a woman’s career a relationship deal breaker?
Matters of the Heart (Love)
Of course this does not equate to the psychological needs of a male-female relationship or the enjoyment of each other for which God created us.
Whether male or female, we all enjoy the friendship and companionship of the opposite sex.
Love is a feeling that is unique to each person and cannot be explained in exactly the same way by any two people. There is no measure of one’s love for another and “true love” cannot be bought.
Therefore, no matter how much money a woman makes, she could never buy “true” eternal love. The same goes for men.
Although there are many who have mistaken “money for love,” this is just a fleeting fantasy that usually ends badly. For centuries, men and women have both mistaken money for love.
Matters of Emotion (Feelings)
It has been said that women are so much more emotional than men – but, I tend to believe that men and women are both emotional. The only difference is that women show it outwardly and men internalize them.
Just because a woman might make more money than her partner does not mean that she feels any less love for her partner and vice versa. Now, there are those who believe that love can be bought, but this is usually 99% false.
True feelings and intentions usually cannot stay hidden for extended periods of time. It just becomes too much work and too hard to continue covering up false intentions and false expectations.
Matters of the Soul (Spirit)
Men have just as much spirit as women do regardless of how much money either one makes. Spirit comes from within and is fostered by both good and bad things.
Negativism and condemnation can squash a spirit like stepping on an ant while walking through the park.
Spirit can also be boosted. Our spirit is usually built on the ideals and philosophies that we are exposed to as we are growing into adults.
We begin to form certain beliefs and customs in our life that we believe are for the good and that will make us happy.
Sometimes, that spirit is contagious. Others cannot help but see that we have a way of spreading happiness.
We may have a unique way of making a person feel good about something that they said or did. This builds confidence and a sense of self worth.
So, this begs the question – does a woman brings more soul to a relationship if she has a lucrative career, or Is a woman’s career a relationship deal breaker?
Matters of the Mind (Power)
Throughout time, men and women have fought for power among the sexes and there is nothing stopping it today. But, there are people in the world who will exploit a person.
Brainwashing a person into believing that they would be a better person if they would share their excesses (money, etc.) is one way of exploiting a person who has money or physical possessions worth any money.
Matters of the mind usually take quite a bit of time to work, and this can be for good or bad reasons. But, when it comes to women and them having money, this is the #1 thing that most people exploit others for.
Matters of the Body (Physical)
Another form of exploitation is through physical power and strength over another individual. Physical power over another is not a good thing in any way as far as I am concerned.
The physical trauma that a woman endures from anyone who is able to overcome her physically can be very debilitating and traumatic.
This is one of the worst things that can happen to a woman because we are (usually) the weaker sex and cannot defend ourselves.
Matters of Perceived Power
There is also “perceived power” that a person places over another whether male or female.
If the female makes the larger portion of the relationship income, she may be perceived to have more power. This “perceived power” is taught from the early beginnings of society.
Even though it varies from generation to generation, there are still conflicting views.
This is a very divided subject as both men and women chose to agree to disagree. This includes issues regarding money and the value it ranks each at in the relationship. But, this is also an individual choice.
Matters of the Bible (Spiritual)
Spiritual teachings vary in the Bible and many different interpretations exist in today’s society. But, there are still conflicting views.
Translations from the teachings of the Bible are quite different and can go in many different directions (which is why I will only touch lightly on this subject).
But, the underlying current still flows through (spiritually) the Bible that women (no matter their financial position) are inferior to man in any relationship.
This, too, should be based on a solid understanding of what is expected and what it optional going into the relationship.
This begs the question as to whether a lucrative career should afford a woman more power in a relationship – or Is a woman’s career a relationship deal breaker?