Tips for developing lifelong friendships

Top 5 Tips for Developing Lifelong Friendships

Developing Lifelong Friendships

How to Develop Lifelong FriendshipsIt is probably safe to say that we have all had at least one failed friendship in our past. Friendships fail for many different reasons, but usually results in some type of misunderstanding.

This occurs at different levels or in different situations during the friendship. There are a few things we should do to foster more meaningful and lifelong friendships for the future.

Honesty and Truthfulness

This is probably a “no-brainer” for most of us when developing lifelong friendships.  In the day-to-day business of living, we become lax and stressed and begin cutting corners to get things done quickly.  In haste, we sometimes forget our manners and morals and end up saying or doing something we later regret.

It is always better to stop and really think about what we are doing or saying that may have an adverse effect on our friendships. If you are having trouble with this, try monitoring yourself when interacting with others. This helps you identify any trouble areas you can correct so you have the proper tools for keeping valuable friendships intact.

Honesty and truthfulness is paramount to the quality of our friendships. A really good friend is always truthful and honest whether good or bad. A true friend has a moral character and treats you like they want you to treat them.

Remember, it is not the quantity of relationships we have that is most important, but the quality of those relationships that we should concentrate on the most. Honesty and truthfulness should be part of the initial discussion when creating and keeping long-term friendships.

Likenesses and Differences

Tips for developing lifelong friendshipsThis is another no-brainer. It is human nature for us to attract others who share the same likenesses and differences that you have. Normally, this is the first thing that becomes apparent regarding the potential for a joint friendship. When a person has some of the same likenesses that we have you want to share and enjoy those things together.

In the end, some people agree to disagree. As long as each person completely understands the changes, the relationship will have the opportunity of advancing to a deep life-long friendship.

Just as important are the differences between two people when a friendship begins. There is always a difference in opinion between two people, but if the likenesses outweigh the differences most individuals respect those differences in favor of the friendship.

It is important to discuss these differences at the beginning of every friendship.  This ensures each person is totally understood. Also, keep in mind that as a friendship grows opinions are going to change. As time goes on, people sometimes change their point of view or opinion about things which could change the dynamics of the relationship.

Respect and Integrity

Respect and integrity in any relationship or friendship is mandatory if you wish to develop lifelong friendships. Most of us do not automatically respect someone unless that person has earned your respect. We gain respect through continued interactions with another person. As the interactions continue, our respect for the other person continues to grow – especially if the interactions are positive and meaningful.

Integrity is the value you place on your friendships. As you begin to build a relationship, the value of that relationship will increase. As the integrity of the relationship grows, you begin to see increased value in that relationship thus increasing the depth and meaningfulness of the friendship.

If you feel that you are losing respect in any relationship, it is mandatory that a discussion take place to clear up any issues that may have been misunderstood.

Intentions and Expectations

In the early stages of any relationship, you r intentions and expectations for the relationship should be discussed. Both individuals should express their intentions and expectations completely.

You should never enter any relationship with ulterior motives in mind. This will just set you up for a failed friendship in the end. Intentions include positive things that both persons will contribute to and gain from the relationship.

Expectations are what your goals are for entering into any friendship. This is discussed between two individuals who plan on entering into a life-long friendship. Sometimes this may start with one individual helping another individual solve a problem or it may develop out of another person just being at the right place at the right time.

A person should never enter into any relationship just to benefit themselves. This sets the relationship up for failure right from the start.

Verbal and Non-Verbal Communication

friendsCommunication in any friendship is essential. When we interact with others, we always exhibit verbal and non-verbal forms of communication. It is extremely important to understand these verbal and non-verbal cues when communicating with others.  These cues help us to understand the meaning of what is said.

Knowing the difference between the two is very important and will make or break a relationship.  We should practice communicating properly to assure the best possible outcome of any relationship.

Verbal communication involves the tone of voice and the inflection on speech.  Inflection is a cue that identifies what comes next.  This can be the end of a sentence or pause before speaking again.  In addition to tone and inflection is the choice of words. The tone of voice involves the emotion expressed into what you are saying, which might manifest as anger, sarcasm, happiness, or sadness.

Non-verbal communication has to do with hidden messages that your body mannerisms bring to the conversation. There are many different ways to non-verbally communicate with others, which are both positive and negative. One example of negative non-verbal communication is rolling of the eyes.  Others include tapping a finger on the table, shaking a crossed leg, looking in the other direction, and/or walking away from someone who is speaking to you.

Our hands and arms says volumes about what we are thinking or feeling when interacting with another individual. Putting a hand over certain areas of your face could mean you are trying to hide something. Crossing your arms in front of you means that you are not open or willing to be approachable to what the other person is saying, or you are not interested in what they have to say.

These tips are essential for developing lifelong friendships and making life more enjoyable. We find that one tips is not greater than any other. Instead these tips should all be developed as a part of your life and the end results in more meaningful relationships.

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Are Left-Handed Writers Ambidextrous?

Have you ever wondered if a person who favors their left hand when writing is ambidextrous or just uses their left hand to write?  I have often wondered about this throughout my life because I am a left-hand dominant individual, but I-personally-do not use my right hand for anything of significance except for throwing a squeaky toy to my little baby girl Schnauzer, Rindy.

I’ve never really thought much about how other people tackled this situation because it has pretty much always seemed commonplace to me, but of course-at this point in my life-I’ve been left-hand dominant for probably forty-plus years or more.

I can remember back – there was a time in grade school – when I was teased quite a bit for learning to write left-handed.   I pretty much kept to myself and just did what I wanted to do about that subject.  I had pretty much made up my mind that I was going to write left handed no matter what-and I did and I am still doing this today.

 

Journaling – Yes or No!?

For many years –  too many years – I always said to myself, “What is the point in journaling” or “I don’t have time to write in a journal” or “What do you write about in a journal anyway – huh?”

Life sometimes brings with it things that you don’t understand and you find yourself asking the question – “Why is this happening to me anyway?” or another question, “Well, okay – what exactly do I write about?”

The great thing about these questions is – there is no “one” standard, single answer – because everyone’s answer is going to be different from the next person’s answer and – that my friend, is what makes each one of us unique and different.

Experiences in life usually occur through what we are “exposed to” in our everyday life or how we “respond to” those exposures – also unique to each individual.  So, write what you feel comfortable writing about in your journal.  “What have you heard about journaling – or even blogging – that makes you want to do it?

I use writing in my journal as, well – okay, “therapy or purging” of my brain from all the day’s experiences.  This allows me to visually go into – retrospective mode – takes over and allows me to reflect on those choices and results of those choices made throughout the day.

Journaling is where you will find the answers to many of the questions you may have about your future and once you identify “those questions” – introspective mode – takes over and you’re able to focus on a clearer solution.  “Are you a proactive individual or a passive individual” – well, your future could depend on it, right?” 

 

Life’s Challenges

We all know that everyone experiences challenges in their life.  But, if you stop and think about it – everyone’s challenges are not the same – some are harder than others – some are easier than others.

The question posed here is – “How do we respond to these challenges?”  Yeah, but — everyone is going to respond differently right?  What we have to remember is “how we respond to life’s challenges” is the catalyst for growth and happiness.  Growth brings about confidence – confidence “sparks” us to keep going – and sparks “ignite” a fire that lights the way to success and happiness.

To Do’s & I Love You’s – –

I could not have found a better picture of what my mind is feeling like right now – the dreaded blank page!!  Do you find yourself sometimes just staring at a blank piece of paper and just don’t know what to write down first – Yeah, well–

That is me — “I’m guilty as charged!”  It’s funny – I used to write everything down on a piece of paper titled “To Do List” and these lists would end up looking like I was writing a short essay for college – Wow – really bad, huh?

I sometimes wrote down some of the craziest stuff – like “sort my sock drawer” or “buy Crazy Glue to fix the coffee cup handle” or even something like “dust, sweep, mop, and do all the laundry – today?!”  Yeah, I know, stupid list – like I’m really going to get all of this done in one day – yeah right!  This is a HUGE ‘”CHORE”‘ LIST, – something I am not a fan of.

So, one day, I decided to stop writing any kind of list – even a grocery list.  If I even tried to start a list, I would get this overwhelming feeling of dread and doom – like if I don’t get everything done on this list, I’ll be reminded every day of what I failed to complete on my “so called list.”

Wow, now that is a way to really put some added stress on top of your life – just think about it -“Is this what we really want in life or is it more important to take the time – of which you would otherwise be writing your lists – and spend it with your family and friends?”  Lists go on forever — our loved ones don’t!!